I had a discussion about blogging yesterday with my friend Opti. We talked about how I had gotten the wrong overall impression of his blog... a theme that he'd not intended. He also mentioned that sometimes, he's deleted an entire post that he'd spent valuable time and effort writing before actually publishing it for the world to read. Writing can be very cathartic!
I admitted that I've gone back to old posts and modified them but never completely deleted them. Because I wanted my blog to be a written chronology of my personal emotional journey in SL, I went back and took out people's cartoon names and other specifics so that I could focus more on illustrating the hows and whys - not the whos and wheres.
Believe me, there's one post in particular that I want to delete so much! The one about polyamory that shares the same graphic as this post. I don't think it's fair to the process to just simply delete that which we wish we hadn't written. I'm supposed to look back at older posts and think, "OMFG WTF was I thinking back then?!?!?!?" That is what growth is all about - realizing that we've changed - we're different, that we've made mistakes, and that we've learned from them.
Through writing that post about polyamory, I was hoping to convince myself that it was something that I could actually do since someone who I cared for very much at the time was expecting me to learn to like and practice it. But, here's what I learned:
Polyamorous relationships are NOT for me. I don't have anything against the people who practice them and are able to make them work. Afterall, I have read The Ethical Slut and I understand the concept. But in my opinion, poly is a lot like communism -- it looks damn good on paper and in theory but doesn't work so well in practice. This may sound harsh, but I don't think that anyone who expects a poly lifestyle from his or her partner is capable of genuinely loving anyone other than him or herself.
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